When you never make it about you, it's never about you. And sometimes it needs to be about you. Know what I mean? Ken Page, L. We don't have to do all the loving. You have to be in an equal partnership, emotionally as well as in terms of power and responsibility.
When two people spend a lot of time together, they're going to disagree. That's just the facts of life. If you consciously never disagree with your partner, you're basically setting up a relationship in which your partner is always right.
Not only will it create a burden of a situation that's hard for your partner to live up to, but it will fill you with regret, unfulfilled desires, and resentments. Disagreements don't have to be scary , terrible messes with some good communication skills and some patience. They're an essential part of all healthy relationships.
Solving problems is almost an instinct to some people. When it's someone you love, if you can solve a problem , why wouldn't you? Well, when you solve all of someone's problems for them, what you're actually doing is enabling them to never have the skills to take care of themselves. People have to learn to solve their own problems. It's a basic survival skill. Sometimes you have to let your partner fail or have a bad day. It sucks, but it's part of life.
Even if the bubble you build around your partner is made with love, it's still unhealthy. Overprotective behavior is tricky. It can be a loving act based in kindness though still unhealthy or it can be a means of power and control. Abusive partners misuse power and control to keep their victims under their thumbs.
In fact, it is how we are wired. Therefore, it turns out that having sex too soon is destructive to a new relationship because of the likelihood that he will run away and she will be hurt. It is possible to be too nice to someone who takes you for granted, is not committed to you, dislikes women, or is abusive. That makes you a door mat. I wrote Temptations of the Single Girl , to give women a template for building healthy relationships that lead to commitment and marriage.
There are specific things you must do in order to attract a great guy, put off sex, and not put him off. Write back after you read it and tell me how you will put the coaching in action in your life.
This article was excerpted with permission from Nina Atwood. Permission to reprint is granted by the author provided all links are included. If so, then time is to set some limits for others to interact with you or talk about you openly. Time to let them think, before speaking anything that relates to your personal belief or feelings.
Also read: Reasons : Why do good people suffer more in Relationship? Never force yourself to change, just to impress someone. Be you and focus on your personal trust and feelings. No one is responsible for your happiness, except you. Understand your limitations, value your strength, and stop pleasing everyone around you. You just prefer yourself…and not have to ignore others completely.
But, from now, you have an important role for yourself, too. Avoid any ideas and thoughts that show you a negative side only.
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